Womanhood (Part One)

(Hey everyone! Here’s a post I originally published on my other blog, Wake up, Girls!. (View the original post here.) I wanted to post it here for my “Yah’s Girl” followers too, so I hope you enjoy!)

As a young teenager, I struggled with the concept of womanhood. When our Bible study group decided to study this topic, I was excited because I wanted to learn more about what I was supposed to become, how I was supposed to act, as a woman in Christ.

But after the meetings, I was so confused because of all the information coming from the people in the group. The verses we talked about were on submission, teaching, head coverings. Yes, I know it’s a sensitive topic and it’s good to know where you stand, but I think it was a lot for me to take in, as an inexperienced and a tiny-bit-immature-15-year-old.

What made it harder was that most of the people presenting their ideas were … the men. I didn’t see any women saying things about how they’d learned to take their identity from the Bible. I didn’t see any women sharing their wisdom with the others.

If you know me, you can see that this topic would be hard for me.

I love debate and freedom. I love the idea of living alone and being independent. I want to do dangerous and risky things, like walking fenceposts, kayaking down crazy rivers, and going on backpacking trips. I’ve even wanted to be a secret agent at one point!

I’ve had the image of the strong, independent woman in my head for my whole life. I wanted to be that kind of person.

But I wanted it for MYSELF. Not for the glory of God. For the glory, courage, and fame of MYSELF.

See? When you start with the heart of the matter you see what’s wrong. The defenses fall away. And you can see the truth.

See, what I realized was that men and women have different purposes. The purpose of the godly man is to be responsible for his family, wife, and children. To protect them. To love them. To lead them where God leads him. He can’t do that if his wife or daughter is constantly second-guessing his decisions or pulling at his hand to move him elsewhere.

And the purpose of women? I’ve learned that it is multifold – but I think the root of it all is to help. To help their parents, instead of tearing them down and making trouble. To comfort and encourage their friends with their troubles. Cook when Mom’s sick. Do the chores when Dad’s away. Babysit for a couple on a date. To help their husbands lead them in a godly way.

Instead of thinking of the men’s responsibility as an encumberment to our independence, why don’t we think of it as a blessing from God? Instead of thinking of our purpose to be helpmeets as a burden, why don’t we rejoice that we have the power to change and to move people? We woman can help people be the best they can be! We can encourage the men in our life instead of scoffing at their leadership!

Something that was really important for me to learn was this: That my Dad has my best interests at heart. In fact, at one point I didn’t believe this. I thought he was out to wreck my fun – maybe he wouldn’t ever let me move out. Maybe he’d never let me date the guy I liked. Maybe he’d never let me leave the province without him or Mom. I thought, “This sucks. Why does he have to be in charge of me for my entire life? Can I never make my own decisions?”

But stop a minute, old Makayla. I know my Dad. He loves God. He loves me. He wouldn’t want to hurt me. He wouldn’t do anything he didn’t truly believe in. He’s not out to wreck my fun. He’s out to protect me – to fulfill his God-given responsibility to take care of me, his baby girl.

When you think about it THAT way … it takes away all the skepticism and all I feel is gratefulness and love.

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So now we know what it DOESN’T mean to be a Godly Woman … what DOES it mean?

There are SO many facets to what it means to be a godly woman that I can’t fit all the concepts in this post! This will be part one of a series on Biblical Womanhood, and I’ll be incorporating the stories of Biblical women in the posts, to illustrate the qualities we can show in our lives today. I hope you’ll follow my blog or continue checking it out so we can journey through this womanhood series together!

“Yahweh, I pray that you would work through this series. Help all the women and teenage girls to know what your special purpose is for them, and to accept the purposes which you have given to men. Thank you for your principles of Biblical manhood and womanhood that we can follow. They are beautiful and desirable, not a burden or an encumberment. Help me as well, to know what to write, and continue to fill us with your words through Your Word. Please renew us all. In the name of your son Yeshua, Amen.”

I hope you all have an amazing day!

Makayla

(By the way, the Womanhood series will be continued on the other blog, Wake up, Girls! Head over and click the follow button to receive notifications for future posts!)

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Cute hairstyles for Summer Camp!

Hey everyone! Just popping in for a short post today. Hope you enjoy!

Have you ever been to summer camp with your hair on its second day? Trust me, its not something you want to go through without that one trusty person who knows how to French braid! But although French braids are THE hairstyle when at camp, there are several other preppy styles to wear that are way easier and cute as well!

1. half up, half down.

I like this one because it calls attention to the back of the head, which doesn’t happen with normal styles. If you have long flowing hair, this keeps it out of your face and adds dimension to the back of your head. Plus, you can dress it up a lot! Scrunchy, braid, kerchief, a mini bun (trust me, it doesn’t make you look like a guy!), you could even add small flowers! (I tried this once and it made me feel like a princess!)

2. braided ponytail.

I went through a phase where I did this quite a lot! I find that you can use either the three-strand braid and the two-strand (or “rope” braid.) Start with a section of hair at the front middle of your face, and pull it into a braid. (The larger the section, the larger the braid, but also the bigger the pouf, which makes it harder to control.) Then pull the rest of your hair into a ponytail, and tuck in the braid, so it travels from your hairline to the ponytail, across your head.

The braid looks visible, and at the root of the braid is a pouf that adds dimension to the front of your head, which may have otherwise looked flat on its second day.

3. messy bun.

If you know you’re not going to be doing a lot of running that day, a loose messy bun looks amazing and won’t fall out if you use the right tricks! (I confess I have yet to discover these tricks!) I normally make my buns just by twisting the hair at any point on my head (normally mid to low height) and wrapping it with a spiral ponytail band (which are my favorite hair band EVER! They hold hair in place really nicely and tightly, because of the spirals. If they stretch, just put them in a bowl of boiling water and they’ll shrink magically!)

4. the famous, the one-and-only, milkmaid braid!

This is my absolute favorite style ever! Not just because it gives off such whimsical swiss alpine vibes (be still my heart!) but because it wraps the face with such a beautiful braid that whoever wears it instantly looks gorgeous! It can be super simple, but it looks like it takes a lot of practice to get it right. Here’s a tutorial (simply because I have never excelled at giving instructions about something which I can’t do! 😂)

5. bandana.

I saw this one a few years ago and my cabinmates and I instantly fell in love! (No, it wasn’t a boy, it was a bandana!) Fold your bandana in half so it looks like a triangle, then flip the long side one inch over, and over, and over again until it looks like a ribbon. Loop it around the back of your head and tie it at your hairline, being sure the “bow” lands slightly off-center, or you’ll look like a rabbit. Here’s a pic because my instructions look confusing even to me!

(Source: https://blog.stylewe.com/step-up-your-hairstyle-fashion-with-bandana/)

I hope y’all enjoyed! Let me know your thoughts. What are your favorite hairstyles for summer camp?

Makayla

You are SO Beautiful!

Have you ever known a girl who was just so beautiful and had such an attractive personality in her own way, but … she just couldn’t see it? In fact, maybe she even thought she was ugly … or dumb … or annoying … and maybe she wanted to be somebody else! Maybe that girl …

Maybe that girl … was you?

That girl was me.

Surrounded by what society calls “beauty”, I looked around, and saw that everyone else had clearer skin. Everyone else had skinny legs. Everyone else had a crush who liked them back (Presumably because of their looks.) And then there was me.

Can I tell you something, little girl with a crown? What you are doing is comparing yourself to others. And each of those girls are comparing themselves to you. And you are both coming up on the short end because you don’t realize that God made you YOU and even if you weren’t born with your struggles, get this: The YOU that God made is gonna have to put up with the hard times as well as the good times. And God will help you! He loves and won’t leave you hanging!

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Deuteronomy 31:6 (emphasis mine)

And listen: If God is for you, than who can stand against you? Don’t let the world stand against you! Don’t measure yourself by their standards. Trust in God. Commit yourself to developing a beautiful character, an inner beauty.

Little girl with a crown, you are God’s child, and he will give you the desires of your heart … when you seek first His kingdom and righteousness.

I know it’s hard to wait, hard to be different, hard to keep going, hard to change your thinking … But you can choose to let the hard things make you better. Diamonds are formed under intense pressure. In the same way, your pressures can crush you, or it can create a sparkling beauty.

Things to avoid …

  • Stop comparing yourself to other girls. Every time you catch yourself, chastise yourself. Tell God, “Thank you for your beautiful creation. We are both beautiful because we are made in YOUR image.”
  • Don’t make the situation worse. If you are REALLY down in the dumps about your weight, acne, school, or something more serious, seek help! Talk to your parents or a caring friend, do a little research, you could even talk to me!😉 Seriously … you are not alone!

Step 1 – KNOW that outward beauty is second to inward beauty. Inner beauty is oh-so-important and comes FIRST.

Step 2 – LIVE what you KNOW. Work on your inner beauty. It’s okay to wear make-up and care about your clothing and try to look nice, but really cultivate your inner beauty. Let your inner beauty shine through the clothes you’re wearing. Let your happiness and contentment give your skin a glow.

Step 3 – Wait on Yahweh, and be strong. It takes strength and patience to wait, and these are both elements of inner beauty. Find a role model (your mom, aunt, even a friend) who shows you what inner beauty looks like.

I’ve been there, done that. I’m here for you, girl!!

Stay strong in the Word.

How to get your Beauty Sleep!

We all know the feeling … rolling over in bed, so warm. Glancing out the window, the sun rudely awakens us with its cheery glow, but all we care about is tuning out everything so we can get rid of that headache! Why, oh WHY did we stay up SO LATE last night?

Staggering over to the mirror to soothe our parched throat with water, we almost faint at the sight of our face. Deep circles give your eyes an … interesting look. “Wish purple circles were in,” we groan as we splash our faces, hoping to banish the puffy eyes before our appointment at 9:00 AM … in 30 minutes!?

Yes, yes, we’ve all been there. It’s awful! How do we keep it from happening again?

Your sleep isn’t an annoying necessity, its a helpful one. But in order to make it work for us, we need to disconnect from the norm and plug into efficiency! Ready?

  1. Go down early! Yes, thats right, early!! (I’ve found that being in bed with lights out at 9:30 will somehow cause me to wake up at around 5:30, and fall back again until 7:00!! Craziest thing! Maybe it’s just me … but wouldn’t you like to try it?) I heard an interesting thing once … an hour of sleep before midnight counts as TWO hours after midnight! Trust me … it works!
  2. Prepare yourself and your body. Drink a glass or two of water beforehand, so that you don’t wake up totally dehydrated and zapped of energy.
  3. Get yourself most comfortable. I tend to like sleeping in a cool, totally quiet room with dusky lighting and heavy covers. Whatever works for you, do it!
  4. Wind down and clear your head. I read the Bible, draw, comb my hair, or journal. Sniffing essential oils has helped me tremendously … I love to put Peppermint essential oil in my FÜM and breathe it in before bed while I read!

Why go to all this work, though? Because …

  1. A teenager needs 8-10 hours of sleep to function properly in school and work, avoid headaches and sickness, and keep energy levels up. You have a growing body, and you want it to grow as much as possible, as strong as it can, so nurture it with sleep!
  2. … But not too much sleep. Too much can dull your senses and make you feel lazy and even more tired. Sometimes the early riser takes the cake!

I hope this helped you with some tips for a beautiful beauty sleep! 😂

See y’all!

Makayla